If you are an avid reality show fan - like myself here, it is my guilty pleasure and I honestly don't feel so guilty about it - you may remember the episode where Diane Von Furstenberg (DVF) gave her famous advice to Whitney Port at a party when Whitney was feeling blue. I remember watching that episode as a young woman and not quite understanding the importance of DVF's advice to Whitney, but now as I have gotten older ... I find her advice very valuable, I even went ahead and read her book, watched numerous interviews and concluded that there are far many more life lessons that can be learnt from the legendary fashion icon.
“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”
Every young woman needs to understand this. You cannot help others if you don't help yourself first. Similarly, in order to have the best relationship with others, you must be at peace with yourself first.
I am currently at a stage in my life where I have to make important decisions regarding the path I wish to continue my life on, both personally and professionally. It becomes hard not to doubt yourselves and your decisions, especially at a young age. However, I really know the sort of person I want to become, and I know what women inspire me. I was happy that DVF has been through the same thoughts previously in her life, and as she is a woman I admire, it feels somewhat reassuring to know that.
“I didn't know what I wanted to do, but I always knew the woman I wanted to be.”
Any challenges faced along the way of decision making throughout life, know that it is for the best. You will be made into a stronger individual, especially mentally. Mental strength is often underrated. It's vital. Crucially important. One can complain about things that went wrong, or people's negative influence, which will eventually do no good. Why not embrace the challenge instead? as it will increase your mental strength and prepare you for other challenges that will continue contributing to your personal growth.
“Don’t blame your parents, don’t blame your boyfriend, don’t blame the weather. Accept the reality, embrace the challenge, and deal with it. Be in charge of your own life. Turn negatives into positives and be proud to be a woman.”
Last but not least (as there are so many things I learnt from reading about DVF), one of my absolute favorite quotes from the icon, which I always like to take as a guidance in hard situations on my personal life is the following:
"Absence is to love, what the wind is to fire, when it's a small fire the wind kills it but when it's a real fire it intensifies it."
I like the simplicity in her advice giving, and the fact that she makes it seem less dramatic that in real life. Its calming, and nurturing for me to read her words of wisdom.